Memory Lapse...

One of the worst mistakes you can make in your life is to think that everyone thinks and reasons like you. That is so far from the truth. As our faces and names are different so are our thoughts. I made the sad mistake of forgetting that and the kind of mess I found myself in!! Let me paint a picture for you.

An old friend and I reconnected after awhile and I was excited and I assumed she was because all she did was portray excitement .We talked for hours on end and I was especially happy for her because her life was going so well. she had an amazing job,she had a successful business and she had a beautiful family.I was not the least bit envious because to me this encouraged me that I will get where she was as well.My father taught me that we all run a different race and we get to certain stages in life at different times. He liked to say 'Your blessing is yours and nobody will take it from you so don't desire another person's blessing because it is like wanting another person's custom made dress which can fit that person only. The dress will never fit you like it does the owner.' 

I was not doing as well as she was but we seemed to be getting along really well.Her husband bought her a house and was re-modelling it because she did not like some parts of it. She invited me over during one of her visits to the house and I was only too happy to tag along..I was thrilled to see her new house. We even discussed ideas,went over her choice of colours and I shared contacts of stores that were less expensive to help her cut cost. Then I got comfortable and my mind went on vacation as far as remembering that we are different. I started to tell her of a project I was working on and how it was looking promising. I went further to tell her how my partner was now doing well in business and confessed that at that rate we are expecting good things to come in the near future. I noticed her expression change slightly but I brushed it off.  Before we left the house she made a snide comment, 'by the time you get to build a house,I hope you will get a piece of land to use.' I brushed it off again and steered the conversation in a different direction.

My friend asked about my project and I was only too glad to tell her about it.Her interest in my project was rather keen. I explained it to her and naively answered all her questions. To me this was my friend getting excited for me as I was for her. I was in for a rude awakening. She went behind my back and managed to sabotage my project by engaging the people I was working with causing them to toss my work out in favour of her project. I had not told anyone but her about my project because I was hoping to surprise them. The surprise was on me!I only learnt about the sabotage weeks later after I had put my resources and time into it. I was devastated. I began to self sabotage as well since I wasn't able to cope with the betrayal...I was hit hard and low.

My support system is superb and the on noticing that I was going down a hole, they rallied around me and pulled me out. I was eventually able to fix the mess I had landed myself in as a result of my brokenness.I am still a work in progress, when handling people I come into with all my wits about me.God is mending me and even making it better. Sad to say that my once upon a friend lost the project to financiers as it was not her brainchild so she couldn't take it where it needed to go. She closed up her business well. I still wish her well though I wouldn't want to rekindle that friendship. I am happy to say I am now working on a new project....