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Memory Lapse...

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One of the worst mistakes you can make in your life is to think that everyone thinks and reasons like you. That is so far from the truth. As our faces and names are different so are our thoughts. I made the sad mistake of forgetting that and the kind of mess I found myself in!! Let me paint a picture for you. An old friend and I reconnected after awhile and I was excited and I assumed she was because all she did was portray excitement .We talked for hours on end and I was especially happy for her because her life was going so well. she had an amazing job,she had a successful business and she had a beautiful family.I was not the least bit envious because to me this encouraged me that I will get where she was as well.My father taught me that we all run a different race and we get to certain stages in life at different times. He liked to say 'Your blessing is yours and nobody will take it from you so don't desire another person's blessing because it is like wanting anothe...
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His friends are not your friends

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Ladies we need to address this issue once and for all. Your man's friends are not your friends so stop wasting emotions and time on them . I have just about had it with the ladies who whine and cry about the betrayal from his friends....key word is "his " ....not your friends!  So suck it up and let it go. His friends hang out with you because your man brought you with him,they want access to your friends, they want you or they enjoy your company. Period! They are not hanging with you cos they genuinely want to build a friendship with you. Their loyalty lies with your man not with you. So they will  hang out with you on Friday and hang out with his side chic on Saturday and you'll only know it when you bust your man. They will not tell you  anything about it so stop expecting it and and stop investing your time and emotions in them.Be polite and and respectful to them as you would want your man to be with your friend and leave it at that.n His women friends are no...
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HER CORE..... She is barely in her thirties but she is full of wisdom and humility,Qualities commonly mistaken for naivety or weakness. This could not be further from the truth,Rosa is as strong as they come and naivety is not a word that one can use to describe her without bearing false witness to her character. I nervously ring her door bell and wait,it is a short wait as she answers her door almost immediately.  Her house is warm and Cosy, I can't help but wish it was mine. Simple yet elegant in every manner." You have a beautiful home Rosa." I compliment her as I look around some more. "Thank you dear,you know you and I have similar taste when it comes home decor." She says ushering me to the dinning area. I move from my seat and head to the dinning room. "Let us have lunch first before we can have some girl time" she says before excusing herself to get her sons. She is a mother of two boys(twins) she absolutely  adores th...
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Save Me!!!

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I am just from an interview of sorts for a job am not sure I want but then again want and need are different and my present predicament is the latter at the interview there was a white lady from Europe she looked at me with a stare that could melt me if her eyes had infra rays  at the moment I dint know why she made me uneasy all I knew is that she was a scary lady. I got the job and off I went home to prepare myself to report to work the following week everything about that day just stood out and all for all the wrong reasons...  I boarded the only matatu at the bus stop and found myself a seat next to this young man. A few minutes later a lady boards and sits across from me she was barely seated when she unwrapped  this black polythene bag and start to eat. The smell of food,air pollutants and the smell of feet!! Wait! whose feet are those stinking up the entire matatu? I glance around and it does not take long to realise that the fella sitting besides me  was t...
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FOREVER AFTER.

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When you both decide that you want spend the rest of your lives together many questions come to mind. Let us address one. Can you make it last forever? After reading through studies that have been carried out on making relationships last a lifetime. Some of the information intrigued me and the rest just left me wondering.Let me share them with you and we can analyze, dispute or agree with them....  " we have basic traditions that work for us. They sound silly but they are ours and we decide what works for us. Being silly together is romantic and healthy. I sleep before him and he tucks me in and cuddles me for a minute before he goes off to watch a movie in the living room. We have been together 10years it's our special thing.silly as it is we love it. "  (Jane 35) "I always give her my last piece of chicken when we are having chicken I know she serves me more but she keeps me in mind and I love keeping her in mind all the time" (Michael 28) "We alw...
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Bigger than You.

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Last night I had trouble sleeping and when I woke up today my day did not start so well. I got to the office and my day continues to go south as the hours slowly go by. I wish could call someone and just vent and hear an assuring voice at the end of my rant say.." you will be just fine. I am here for you'' in the midst of searching for some sanity a text comes in "SHE IS GONE'' I am using a new phone and hence all my contacts are not showing so I rack my brain for the identity of the sender but I came up with nothing. I even try true caller nothing! My heart begins to race as my head is flooded with names of all the people that could be gone. My heart begins to tear away and hesitantly I respond "Who?" I wait for what feels like an eternity and no response comes. then a text from a different number comes in " Mama x has passed on"  I could feel my feet sinking,my heart racing and tears flowing down my cheeks. My brain was silent...no t...
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Facts over Fantasy

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I have just stepped out of the office heading home I walk slowly appreciating my surroundings. A few meters from my office I see this tall lady smiling at me I smile back somewhat unsure of her reason for smiling at me then it she hugs me " empress!! sweet sweet empress!" at that moment I recognise her by her voice. It was an old school mate from back in high school. We stop and quickly try to catch up I am happy to see her after so many years and to see what she has become. Her name was Stella now Mrs. Adams. she is digging into her purse for a notebook to show me something when this small group stands beside us. "bona kuna rine kubwa ivo pare? "(why the long queue over there?) the only woman in the group asks pointing towards a Japanese restaurant a few meters away. " hii ni hoteri ya majapanesse na watu wainaipeda sana . kwanza wamama. "( that is a hotel belonging to Japanese which is loved by many) One of the gentlemen in the group responded. curiousl...
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