His friends are not your friends

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Ladies we need to address this issue once and for all. Your man's friends are not your friends so stop wasting emotions and time on them . I have just about had it with the ladies who whine and cry about the betrayal from his friends....key word is "his " ....not your friends!  So suck it up and let it go. His friends hang out with you because your man brought you with him,they want access to your friends, they want you or they enjoy your company. Period! They are not hanging with you cos they genuinely want to build a friendship with you. Their loyalty lies with your man not with you. So they will  hang out with you on Friday and hang out with his side chic on Saturday and you'll only know it when you bust your man. They will not tell you  anything about it so stop expecting it and and stop investing your time and emotions in them.Be polite and and respectful to them as you would want your man to be with your friend and leave it at that.n

His women friends are not exempt. They are nice to you cos they are trying to figure you out and understand why they are in the friend zone while you are his sweetheart. They are making jokes about you behind your back about that other girl he's seeing and comparing the two of you... They're are not your friends so before you ditch your girlfriends for your man's friends please think twice. You expect loyalty from your inner circle...heck you feel entitled to it those are people who should make you mad and disgusted when they betray you. Those are the people who owe you not his friends. Before you ran off to hang out with them and ditch your family or friend for them think long and hard..... cultivate your relationship with your friends and family those won't let you down and if they do then they are not your friends. Don't ditch yours for his they will never ditch him for you. 

You may be lucky to find the one friend that is genuinely your and his friend. That friend is a team supporter and he or she will not sit by and watch either of you hurt the other behind each other's back. That friend will call you out and try to help fix things. Until you can say without a doubt this person is that kind of friend,watch your back!!

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