FOREVER AFTER.

When you both decide that you want spend the rest of your lives together many questions come to mind. Let us address one. Can you make it last forever?

After reading through studies that have been carried out on making relationships last a lifetime. Some of the information intrigued me and the rest just left me wondering.Let me share them with you and we can analyze, dispute or agree with them.... " we have basic traditions that work for us. They sound silly but they are ours and we decide what works for us. Being silly together is romantic and healthy. I sleep before him and he tucks me in and cuddles me for a minute before he goes off to watch a movie in the living room. We have been together 10years it's our special thing.silly as it is we love it. "  (Jane 35)

"I always give her my last piece of chicken when we are having chicken I know she serves me more but she keeps me in mind and I love keeping her in mind all the time" (Michael 28)"We always eat dinner together. We wait for each other to get home if one of us is late but we always eat together. It helps us keep time since we don't want to keep the other waiting. We love each other's company but work and everyday commitments away from home means we spend very little time together. Over dinner we catch up and just celebrate each other one of us bought the food and the other cooked it 😉 we enjoy it together." ( Richard and Elizabeth 33&30) 

"My wife is a jewel that I like to keep polished. We have 2 date in a month. One outdoor activity since am an outdoor kinda guy. She loves to dine so I make sure no matter how simple we dine out and just talk away from the home it is during this times that we discuss issues bothering us especially those that affect us negatively. I like buy her a gift and give it to her during the date. We remain friends and that helps us be better in our marriage." ( Hussein 35)

" We have a rule that none of us farts in the presence of the other. It is gross and unattractive " (shiku 32) 

" She does not call me when am out in the club and she does not fuss when I get home. I like that type of respect. I am not her father am her husband and she recognizes her place. We don't fight about it and we are both happy" (Jaymo 37)

"I don't buy myself anything. I am his responsibility and in return he comes home to a clean house and eats like King because I make his food fit for one. "(Faith 40)" We challenge each other weekly to do something out of the norm for the person taking the challenge for example my husband is better cook than me by far,he will write up a menu for the week and am supposed to come up with creative ways of making those meals. I am very good at dancing I will come up with dances that I want him to perfect and he has only 6 days to do it. On the 7th day we rate each other. It is fun and it keeps us alert and lively trying to meet the challenge and come up with the next challenge... which is essential for a relationship that's meant to be forever. We can't make it if we bored each other!! " (Chebet & Bill) 

"She is not allowed to talk in the presence of my friends in fact she should leave the room when they visit unless I ask her to stay. I don't believe in the nonsense of women visiting each other in the homes if they need to talk there are phones and restaurants for that. I have all her passwords so I can access her phone or laptop it is important so that I can guide her. She would be lost without my guidance. I buy her gifts and make sure she looks good all the time. We are happy (KK 36) 

The stories behind the success of their marriages and relationships were plenty but this are the ones that stood out for me. Either because they sounded ridiculous or because they sounded fantastic. My relationship has its traditions as well but what keeps us together is the grace of God. Our secret is simple....we pray. Love is not enough to sustain a marriage. Commitment,forgiveness,respect and most importantly God. What works for you? Do u think the couples who participated in this survey were right?.....